When we queer death, dying and mourning, they become sites of creativity, self-determination, collective care and resisting oppression, creating opportunities to challenge dominant ideas, practices and narratives that limit our ability to express who we are at every stage of our lives, including when we die.
Read MoreI understand now that it takes a whole community to raise a child, and that parents and caregivers need their communities to show up for them, too. I know this because what makes it possible for me to be a parent today is that I’m doing it with three other people.
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The Care We Dream Of offers possibilities— grounded in historical examples, present-day experiments, and dreams of the future—for more liberatory and transformative approaches to LGBTQ+ health and healing. Creating this book has challenged me to think differently about LGBTQ+ health and healing, a challenge I want to extend to readers. I’ve felt called out, called in and called to action by this book in ways that have changed how I approach my work as a writer and LGBTQ+ health advocate, and even how I understand my own identity as a queer person.
Read MoreIt can feel scary to get older as an LGBTQ2S+ person, if you imagine aging at all. I’m surrounded by people who are surprised to still be alive because of all the ways death is a constant companion in their lives. And yet, here we are, aging together, hopeful and fearful about what the future might hold. I don’t know if I will be lucky enough to get old, but I do know I want to help dream and fight for something better for our community.
Read MoreIt can be confusing to know where to start, especially when, as LGBTQ2S+ people, we’re often trying to figure out how to fit our identities, relationships and family structures into systems, laws and policies which are not designed for us.
Read MoreThere’s something inherently creative about being queer—that’s why it’s a noun and a verb. We’re adept at the work of imagination, transformation and creation. We defy norms and stereotypes throughout our lives as we make and remake our identities, families and communities to reflect the visions we hold for ourselves and how we want to live. I brought this spirit into the experience of losing my mom.
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